tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6308632066489552326.post1882181485092649266..comments2023-06-06T07:45:06.509-04:00Comments on Feeling Right At Home: Break(down) timeLucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16703109613878330258noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6308632066489552326.post-27626330795267154142012-01-12T14:11:08.387-05:002012-01-12T14:11:08.387-05:00Oh, sister. The days that I feel magenta at some p...Oh, sister. The days that I feel magenta at some point far outnumber the ones that I don't. And your needs aren't unreasonable or demanding by any measure, rest assured. If I look back over similar emails to Jamison, I alternate feeling completely sorry for myself and my plight and feeling small, selfish, and more than a little mean and ungrateful. But there are days when I feel like I'm drowning. And the only way to make it bearable is having the option to get away from it, as awful as that may sound. <br /><br />I honestly believe that staying home with little ones is simultaneously the absolute most demanding job and the absolute most rewarding job there is out there. But the fact of the matter is that it's still a job, albeit one with no beginning and no discernible end (thank goodness, obviously, for that!), coupled with the lousy pay and the sometimes stifling sense of isolation. And add in the fact that the sheer repetition can get to be a bit mind-numbing and you've got a perfect storm for unrest.<br /><br />It doesn't help that, according to the internet, my house isn't clean or orderly enough, my children aren't as brilliant and well-behaved as apparently everyone else's are, and my sorry self isn't nearly well-dressed enough. And don't even get me started on the silliness that is Pinterest. (I don't mean to offend any avid Pinterest peeps out there. For me, it's just a way to reinforce that I'm not crafty enough, original enough, motivated enough, tasteful enough, charitable enough, kind enough, organized enough...and on and on.) So I've started on a new internet diet. I only read blogs/visit websites/etc. that make me feel good about myself, or that make me happy that the author(s) and I inhabit the same planet, who support my idea that most people are (a) genuinely good people who (b) also have faults and flaws and who (c) openly admit and even embrace them. I give myself 30 minutes every day (hence no blog posts from me of late) and I have to say that I'm honestly a happier person after beginning my self-imposed restriction.<br /><br />I could really write a book for this comment but please know that you're not alone in this. Take Will up on any and every offer of time away for you and don't feel guilty about it for a second. And take care of yourself! Go to your parents', drink lots of wine and let them take care of you. You deserve it!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04048435064432122953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6308632066489552326.post-58188622742693875502012-01-11T18:29:14.734-05:002012-01-11T18:29:14.734-05:00Lucy, I love your honesty on this blog. I think o...Lucy, I love your honesty on this blog. I think one thing to keep in mind as you read other mothers' blogs is that not everyone is so candidly (and refreshingly) honest as you are. Everyone has their own stuggles in life, and many of us keep the wall up in fear that people will see them. I, for one, am not apt to openly admit how hard my juggling act is on a daily basis and how guilty I feel for not spending the weekdays with my children (and I certainly do not freely admit it to my stay-at-home friends). Most of us want our lives to appear perfect to the outside world. But nobody's life is as easy or perfect as we project. We all have our moments. :)<br /><br />Also, I have to agree that your husband is wonderful!! I'm reminded of your post when you said you are liberated because your husband respects you enough to recognize the sacrifices you have made by choosing to stay at home. That was so well observed and appropriately stated. You are so lucky to have a husband who treats you as a true partner and who is eager to give you your well-deserved break.Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14780572249996755409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6308632066489552326.post-61501935070153784152012-01-11T18:11:45.658-05:002012-01-11T18:11:45.658-05:00I actually hid a "friend" on Facebook be...I actually hid a "friend" on Facebook because she always made me feel guilty with her detailed posts of the gourmet dinners she made from scratch for her children with all organic, healthy ingredients. Just had to hide it. No time for extra guilt. We've all been there. We are human and none of us are as perfect as some may seem. Hope you get a little time away--even if it is just a few hours. We all need it to stay sane. Take care.Haleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15984894313819376821noreply@blogger.com