I am absolutely no expert—believe me, I’ll be the first to
shout this obvious fact from the closest mountaintop. But I’ve had enough friends ask about my
running and/or exercise routine – most recently, Susan from college!—that I
thought I would share with you all (aren’t you lucky) what I have been doing
these last ten or more years to stay in shape (sort of) and to stay motivated.
My general routine
First, I am now and always have been a morning person, so I
exercise almost exclusively first thing in the morning. Before kids, this just meant whenever I happen
to roll out of bed. Once Frances (and
eventually George) came along, I realized that if I was going to exercise I
needed to get it done before anyone else stirred. I do this in part to ensure it gets done
(once the kids see I’m awake, any hope of ‘me time’ is over) and in part
because I am a very typical wife/mother/woman who feels guilty if my routine
gets in the way of other’s daily schedules.
I know, I know, I need to get over this and take the kids with me in the
jogging stroller, get a babysitter, use the Kid Zone at the gym, etc., etc. I’ve tried all of these and none of them work
for me; I still feel guilty and useless afterwards (like I now need to somehow make
it up to the kids for sticking them in a stroller for 75 minutes by taking them
to Disneyworld). Believe me, if it were
easier to sleep past 4am on a weekday and 5am on the weekends I would do it;
but right now, that is what works for me and I love it.
I also exercise every single day, with little exception
(those being if I have an injury where I have been instructed do nothing except
breathe in and out or I am deathly ill).
But I only run every other day.
And while I’ve had a few injuries here and there these last years, I
really think this routine has saved my major extremities from more severe
beatings (knock on wood).
On my ‘off’ days from running, I typically go to the gym and
ride the elliptical trainer for 45 minutes followed by 25-ish minutes of light weights,
stretching and core work. I shied away
from weights for a number of years after college swimming, but I’m back now and
I like the way they make me feel (strong!).
If the gym isn’t opened or I’m stuck at the house for another reason, I
have several Tae-Bo videos that I will use (hellooooo Billy Blanks!). As a former dancer, I can assure you these
videos are hard and exhilarating. My
favorites are his earlier ones (late 1990s, early 2000s), but they are all good
and can grow with your ability. And no,
Billy is not paying me to say any of this (but he should, don’t you think? Or
at least offer me a free personal training session, right?).
I know a lot of people (i.e., my rail-thin husband) have complete rest days during their
weeks, working out three days a week or every day except Sunday, for
example. And in fact, this schedule may be
best for some people; but through trial and error I have found that I need exercise every single day. I am a huge grouch when I don’t sweat for at
least 60 minutes a day; I have no idea why and I often wish it weren’t true,
but I have come to embrace and accept it (and thankfully, so has my family).
How I stay motivated
So, aside from my greyhound-like need to run until I drop, I
have also learned some motivation secrets that I use when
I’m feeling blah, slow, tired, or just generally uninterested in running.
Pick up a copy of Runner’s World (or your exercise magazine
of choice). This sounds silly and
perhaps a little too simple, but it really, really works. If you are a runner, nearly every issue of
Runner’s World has a motivational article (or 6) about how to start over, how
to pull out of a slump, how to train through the post-race blues, etc.,
etc. It is rare that I don’t read an
entire magazine and not find a gem of information to carry me
through to the next month or more.
Momentum can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Good momentum is often the only way I can get
myself out of the door during those dark, winter months because I don’t give
myself a day off. I have made
running/exercise part of my morning routine and my body and brain are on
autopilot. Sometimes the only reason I
find myself dressed head to toe in wool and running in the sleet is because I’ve
exercised every day before that. I
never ask myself, “should I go?” I just
go.
But I have also been on the flipside of momentum—the kind
that spirals you back into your warm bed, forces you back on the couch to continue
watching the Millionaire Matchmaker marathon, or whispers to your brain, ‘it’s
okay. You’ll run tomorrow.’ And I know it is really hard to get past the
bad momentum. But my experience is that
the only way to swing the pendulum the other direction is to forcibly do it myself. I just have to start somewhere; anywhere is
better than where I have been. If you
find yourself on the wrong side of momentum, push back and get out of the
door. Eventually, that same momentum
will be pushing you along, I promise.
Finally, I (try to) never forget why I run. I run because it makes my body feel
great. Period. I exercise because it makes me feel great. Double period. Call it selfish; call it my drug of
choice. But that is it, plain and
simple. A lot of people use a certain goal
weight, an upcoming reunion or a future 10k as motivation to keep running or
exercising and that’s great. The
problem I have always had with similar goals is that at some point they will
all end. The race will happen (and you’ll
be awesome). The reunion will come and
go (and you’ll look fabulous). Your
weight will finally hit that magic number (and it will feel fantastic). But then what?
If you run or exercise because it feels great every time you
do it, I promise you will never want to slack off again.
And there ends my completely useless post on how my inner brain
operates. Please take everything I say
with a very large grain of salt. I
realize there are many, many trained professionals out there (some of whom read
this blog) that have actual PhDs in what I have just written and could easily
put my theories to shame. Also know that
I am 35-years-old and in ten years my routine will very likely evolve into
something better suited to my aging body.
If nothing else, when I am 70-years-old and hobbling around on
my runner’s knees I may give myself a good giggle reading back through this
post on all of those things I thought
I knew. But one thing I know will remain
true—I always feel better when I exercise than when I don’t. Triple period.
Happy Wednesday, everyone!
Great post Lucy! I am just like you - exercise is a drug for me. A small dose of me time to sweat and let my mind wander. I am not as good of a mom and wife on days that I can't fit it in! I wish I could get up at 5:00 am before my kids like you do. But that would mean I have to stop staying up until after midnight blogging... if only I didn't need to sleep!! :)
ReplyDeleteWe are getting so excited about our Virginia trip! We will get to see you guys in just a couple of weeks! YEA!
Ah, yes, one (of many things, I'm sure) that I mean to say - I go to bed as early as possible! I have never been good at burning the candle at both ends : ) I'm hoping that once George starts preschool I can sleep in a little and stay up later, but old habits die hard in this gal so we'll see!
DeleteYou are so sweet to read and comment (is it silly that I feel like you're a celebrity of sorts?). I know you are crazy busy with your new house and life with 3. We are SO excited about the May weekend - I just lined up our last main issue (dog sitters!), so we are officially free. Take care!
Great post! I can relate to everything you've said--it's exactly how I felt when I was uber into running. I had a subscription to Runners World. I was grouchy if I didn't get in my run. I had no problem getting up at the break of dawn because it meant reaching that runner's high. I signed up for a casual Friday 5k this Friday, and on May 6 I'll run in a charity 5k. I also wrote an old running partner and asked her to lunch--to catch up, sure, but also to be surrounded by my motivating runner friends again! I hope it's all the beginning to getting back into it, or at least a new form of "into it." Thank you for the inspiration!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a GREAT idea (secretly enlisting an able-bodied motivator) - I should try that sometime : ) Let me know how your 5ks go - I love racing, but I don't do as much as I'd like (maybe 3-5 a year). Once my youngest gets a little older, I would like to do more (as if I'll have all kinds of time then ...ha!). It's an old saying, but I fully believe that the hardest part of running is the first part. Those early days, early miles, early minutes are TOUGH. If you can get through those, you are well on your way! Good luck!
DeleteI ran a 5k on Friday! No training, no NOTHING. It was HARD, and I didn't do well, compared to where I've been with past 10 milers. But! I did it!! (I dragged Matt and a friend along.) Many, many people with DOUBLE strollers and old dogs passed me, but I DID IT! And today I got my every-6-week pedicure (I'm living it up before kids enter the picture), and it took me back to how goooood the massage feels when I've worked for it! I am sore, sore, sore, but the pedilady made it feel good. Almost medicinal, which helps me justify the cost! I've promised myself I'll get out there again this week. Because, as hard as it is, it feels SO GOOD! Thanks for the encouragement!
ReplyDeleteYOU GO GIRL! Seriously, that is amazing! I know it's easier said than done, but one of my favorite things about running is just competing with yourself not others around you...so, the next 5K I have no doubt, will be a PR for 2012 : ) And yes, chocolate, massages, pizza and movie nights = all better after a run. No doubt!
DeleteI love this post!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much, Emilia!
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